Early Writings of Evan Bailyn

Fantasy Art

Posted by on Thursday, January 24th, 2013 with 0 Comments

All of these images were created exclusively for evanbailyn.com and may not be used without permission. [caption id="" align="aligncenter" width="525" caption="This artwork was commissioned exclusively for EvanBailyn.com and is its original banner."][/caption] [caption id="" align="aligncenter" width="525" caption="This artwork was commissioned exclusively for EvanBailyn.com. It was drawn by my good friend, the talented Anna Radomska."][/caption]

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The Problem With Having Too Many Responsibilities

Posted by on Thursday, January 24th, 2013 with 0 Comments

Adults’ lives seem to go by very quickly because of all the chores that distract them from their inner life. Adults pay taxes, apply for mortgages, climb corporate ladders, and attend superficial social functions. Their lives are structured, so much so that even their vacations follow a schedule. And yet, even though taking on responsibilities appears undesirable, adults become dependent on them. How many working mothers, for instance, embody the cliché of the harried modern parent, ...

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Living Life Consciously

Posted by on Thursday, January 24th, 2013 with 0 Comments

Forty years from now, you will nostalgize about today. You will think back to the present moment, recalling how youth was full of choices and hopefulness. You will marvel at how blissfully uninformed you were about what the future held in store for you. The life you live right now will be a distant, golden memory. Knowing how much you will value these days when you are older, how can you allow yourself to hurry through life? ...

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Narcissism And Peter Pan Syndrome

Posted by on Wednesday, January 23rd, 2013 with 0 Comments

A classic characteristic of Peter Pan Syndrome is narcissism. The truth about Peter Pans is that they are self-absorbed, but not in the negative, uncaring way that narcissism connotes. They simply feel a dreamy, imaginative comfort inside of their own minds – an attraction to introspection that is positive and well-meaning. Everyone has some level of self-involvement. After all, life is constantly impacting us and is impossible to ignore. We experience emotions, sensations, desires, and the ...

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Blocking Out The World

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

The world is filled with things we cannot control.  We put ourselves out there, aware of the risk that bad things might happen, just to give ourselves the opportunity for good things to happen. We hope for the best and try to avoid the undesirable vagaries of nature.  But when we depend on people, careers, or events in our lives, we are opening ourselves to possibilities we cannot foresee. Although it is necessary to confront the randomness of the outside world ...

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Invisibility

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It is a small fantasy of mine to become invisible.  My desire to be unnoticed usually presents itself when the pressures of life bear down on me so much that I instinctually retreat into my subconscious.  When I feel the need to withdraw from reality, some aspect of the environment I am in becomes my secret hideaway.  If I am in the bathroom washing up, it is down in the shadows between the bottles of moisturizer, shaving cream, and hair ...

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Defining What Is Right

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

All of us are under some pressure to do what is right, whether from ourselves, our family, or society.  We do our best to stick to the right side of things because we feel immoral doing otherwise.  Yet most of the time, we accept this ambiguous word – “right” – simply because we haven’t really thought about it.  There will never be a shortage of people to opine on what the right behavior is, and yet very rarely do people ...

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Using Time To Our Advantage

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Time is one of the largest ideas we never truly understand.  It is a concept of the same magnitude as space and energy, but unlike them, it cannot be physically witnessed; time is simply something we believe in. Time is, fundamentally, a change of events.  We recognize time to have passed only when something changes -  a person takes a step, a gust of wind blows, our leg itches.  Even the least impactful event, such as the tremor of a hand, ...

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Connecting With Your Fantasy World

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

In a society where the vast majority of people act adultlike, it helps to have a fantasy world - a place that nobody can ever see or influence no matter what is happening in your physical environment.  Keeping such a place inside you, hidden away from everything else, can greatly counterbalance all the external events that are out of your control. However, even those who regularly use their imaginations to escape often do so in a passive way, minimizing the ...

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The Place At The End Of The Earth

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One night as I was lying in bed, I saw the place at the end of the earth.  It was a hill, blanketed in virgin snow, at twilight.  At the edge of my vision, the branches of a pine tree hung calmly, lending their aroma to the cool, comfortable air.  On top of the hill was a log cabin with a chimney from which wisps of smoke drifted out into the purple-grey sky. Beyond the hill was a slope that tapered ...

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Individuality and Love

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

Sometimes it strikes me how many lives exist apart from my own.  Countless minds produce countless thoughts which never touch my consciousness or make any impact at all on my existence.  I wonder how it can be possible for my inner world to be so familiar to me but non-existent to everyone else.  Occasionally when I am in a room and somebody leaves, I try to take on their perspective, mentally following them outside and leaving myself behind.  I picture ...

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Does Fate Exist?

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

Fate is a concept we all formed a definite opinion on at a young age.  Nowadays, we rarely give its existence real consideration, instead using it as a quick explanation for situations we can’t understand, stating “That’s the way it was meant to be.”  But is fate real? Is it immutable that I should be sitting here right now, typing on this computer, with this bottle of water placed exactly as it is on this table in front of me?  I ...

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What Is The Meaning Of Life?

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

I’ve pondered the grandest of all philosophical questions - the meaning of life - since at least my early teenage years.  I’ve also asked a lot of people their opinion on the subject.  The most common answers I get are: - to accumulate as much happiness or pleasure as possible; - to serve God (or follow God’s plan) - to prepare for an afterlife - to attain a high level of spirituality or knowledge - to make a positive difference in the world - there is ...

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What If We Had More Senses?

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We all navigate our lives with our senses, stopping only rarely to appreciate how unique and interesting each one is.  What is smell, after all?  The ability to detect tiny particles that float out from matter and experience them in various chemical categories, such as sweet, fruity, and bitter?  And touch?  The ability to register the microscopic contours of matter and interpret them as a neurological feeling?  When we break down what our senses really are, it becomes possible to ...

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The False Allure Of Financial Goals

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

Every day I work hard.  I give my time, and more importantly, my emotional energy, to accomplishing things that will increase my security in life.  I keep a belief in the back of my mind that if I can just get to a certain level of financial comfort, things will be okay and I can focus on everything I always wanted for myself – family, community, contemplation of life, and the latent creative quests that dwell inside of me.  I ...

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The Wonder Of Crushes

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Having a crush is one of our original human impulses - it is the feeling of seeing in another person characteristics that compliment your being so well that you feel impelled to join their life with yours. It is a strong, passionate longing for a partnership with a person that has something you don’t have and could never possess. It is a magnetic desire for an image of beauty fetched from youth. It is a flood of emotion so mentally ...

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Does True Love Really Exist?

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The question of whether true love really exists cannot be answered without first clarifying what true love really is. However, the concept of “true love” has already absorbed so many qualities from literature, television, and magazines that it can no longer be approached with any objectivity. Trying to consider true love freshly at this point would be like trying to taste a wine while you are eating a hot dog. The image that comes to mind when someone mentions true love ...

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Timeline Of Sexuality

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

Here are some of the more important benchmarks of sexuality that occur in childhood. I’ve tried to be as accurate as possible. Ages 7 - 8 (Second Grade): Some boys begin to think girls are pretty. First crushes develop, but are kept secret because it is not yet fully acceptable to like girls. Usually, there is no discussion of crushes among friends. Ages 8 – 9 (Third Grade): Crushes are now acceptable to most cliques, though a few are still uncomfortable with the idea. ...

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Understanding Marriage

Posted by on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 with 0 Comments

Coming from a divorced family, I do not have the privilege of being able to take marriage for granted. The expectation many children have of getting married in their twenties, starting a life with their spouse, and growing old together is not as firmly implanted in my mind. Rather, it is a romantic possibility - something I hope to attain. But I also have many questions about it. When I was younger, and my dad used to talk about marrying again, ...

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How Has Romance Changed Since We Were Eleven Years Old?

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Romance was a whole lot better when we were eleven. Back then, there was so much more to hope for, so much more to wonder and worry about. In the end, all of the hype basically boiled down to one essential question: whether or not someone liked you. If a girl liked you, you were consumed with elation. You were sparkling with specialness.  Liking a girl was exciting and mischievious; it meant you thought she was pretty, that you wanted ...

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